my story

 Hi, I'm Kylie, I am the founder of Breathe4Them, and this is my story....

On the 8th of July, 2016, my world changed forever. My son lost his life in a tragic motorbike accident.

Nothing can prepare a mother for that kind of pain.

In the days/weeks that followed, I barely functioned—heavily medicated, just surviving moment to moment.  But deep down, I knew that medication wasn’t the path for me.

While I respect that it helps many, it didn’t sit right with my spirit. Every time I reached out for help, I made it clear: I didn’t want a prescription—I wanted to heal through connection and other ways but yet I always left with another script to put in the bin.

That choice came with its own challenges. I faced years of unprocessed trauma, of being triggered by sirens, flashing lights, helicopters amongst other things—anything that brought me back to that horrific day, a lot of those triggers came from not being told about my son’s death but instead I went searching when I knew in my gut something was wrong, and I arrived at the scene. There are no words for what that moment did to me.

I have been in dark places of suicidal thoughts and attempt, I wouldn't wish that upon anyone.

Over time, the trauma began to show up physically. I was later diagnosed with fibromyalgia—a chronic illness, one that stemmed from the deep emotional pain and trauma I had carried for so long. Still, the answer was always the same: more medication. But just like before, I refused.

Even now, I remain unmedicated—not because it’s easy, but because it’s the only way that feels true to me.

I’m sharing my story now because I know I’m not the only one. I know what it’s like to feel shattered, alone, and I also know what it’s like to claw your way toward light.

 One day, while driving with my daughter, I was triggered badly by the lights and sirens of an ambulance and other road users not getting out of my way.

My body froze, my breath caught, and I broke down. I remember saying through tears, "I can't keep living like this." 

Something inside me just shattered, and I knew I had to try something different. 

My daughter looked at me and said she'd been seeing something online—people sharing about breathwork.

She showed me this person called Beau Drury – Believe in Your Breath, and I started following them.

A few months later, in July 2022, I went to my first Breakthrough Breathwork event. That moment… it cracked something wide open.

For the first time in years, I felt like I could breathe again. Not just physically, but emotionally, spiritually, completely.

That was the turning point.  Since then, I’ve committed myself to a different kind of healing—a path that’s grounded in presence, not prescriptions.

Over the past nearly three years, I’ve explored and embraced holistic practices that have changed my life in ways I never thought possible.

Daily journaling to clear the chaos and connect to myself, Breathwork to regulate, release, and realign,  Meditation to quiet the noise and deepen my awareness,  Earthing and nature connection to return to simplicity and stillness, and intentional movement and somatic healing, helping me reclaim my body after trauma. 

These practices haven’t just helped me cope—they’ve helped me come back to life. In many ways, I truly believe they’ve saved my life.

 As I began to heal, I realised something powerful: if I could find my way through the darkest pain without medication—if I could feel again, breathe again, live again—then maybe I could help others do the same.

That became my purpose.

I didn’t want to just heal quietly. I wanted to share everything I’d learned. I wanted to create something I never had in the beginning—a safe, supportive, nourishing space for people who are grieving, hurting, or simply trying to find themselves again.

So I created Breathe4Them.

Breathe4Them exists to make holistic healing accessible. To bring together the tools and practices that helped me transform: breathwork, journaling, meditation, grounding, hypnotherapy, movement, ceremony, connection.

But more than anything, it’s about community.

I want people to feel seen, held, and deeply loved. I want them to know that they are not alone—that even in the depths of pain, there is a way through. A way back to self. A way back to life.

This is what I live for now.

To coach. To support. To hold space.

To help others breathe again—just like I continue to do.

This isn't me forgetting or moving on.... 

This is me honouring and turning my pain into purpose.